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Hard-hitting "God moment" - the light house

2/9/2020

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This morning, our church wrapped up a very convicting series called "God Loves". Over the past few weeks, we talked about the ways God loves: life, you, your neighbor, family... & today's focused on singleness/dating/marriage. All of these messages concluded with how as Christians, we are called to imitate His love. Each sermon was powerful... but this morning's really left me compelled.
One of my biggest takeaways out of Pastor Tyler's message this morning was to TRUST GOD. Being a single gal, it is incredibly hard to stay patient, positive and hopeful in the process of dating - especially getting older. Watching friends get married, start families, move into that "next chapter" - at times, I feel like I'm falling behind in life. Over the last decade, I put my career above everything else... and I sometimes wonder if I should have spent more time investing in myself and relationships rather than chasing a paycheck. (Don't get me wrong, I love my job... but when I was an intern, I had a mentor tell me "this is a very lonely business"... and he wasn't lying.)

​I pray every night, "God, I'm ready to find my person. Help me find that person."
Back to the sermon -- Pastor Tyler touched on principles such as knowing God first, knowing yourself and what you want out of a significant other, truly knowing the person you're dating and paying attention to their trajectory, not seeking perfection, etc. There were so many little nuggets in that 50 minute message -- I filled up three pages in my notebook. I NEEDED to hear this.
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Notes from this morning's message. (Messy - I know - but I needed to write everything down.)
My hard-hitting God moment didn't actually hit me while I was in church... but rather, in the parking lot. While waiting for the lot to clear, Garth Brooks' "When You Come Back to Me Again" came on the radio.  I have always loved this song. It's a sad song... and the music video wrecks me every time I watch it, but I can't help but listen to it. (The song was actually recorded for the movie Frequency... and the music video shows the movie's character as a firefighter who ultimately ends up losing his life in a fire. It's BRUTAL.)
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Garth Brooks' "When You Come Back to Me Again" on the radio as I sit in the parking lot.
I've sang this song a million times in the car but never really noticed the meaning of the lyrics until this morning:

​It starts like this:
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There's a ship out, on the ocean
At the mercy of the sea
It's been tossed about, lost and broken
Wandering aimlessly
And God somehow you know that ship is me


The next verse, Garth sings about a light house.

'Cause there's a lighthouse, in the harbor
Shining faithfully
Pouring its light out, across the water
For this sinking soul to see
That someone out there still believes in me
This is the moment  I knew God was talking to me. In the sermon, Pastor Tyler used an analogy of a light house as a way to demonstrate God's love. He said that when it comes to dating, God isn't going to give you rules or a "how-to" that reads "If you do X,Y,Z... you'll get this" which in this case, would be the perfect, dream spouse. God will, however, lead you... like a light house. A light house doesn't make a decision for a captain on a ship in the harbor... instead, the light house shines a light on the rough waters, the rocky coastline, etc. to help give the captain clarity of the decisions he will make. Like a light house, God gives us the clarity to see the implications of our decision-making. God leads us. God has a plan for us. Ultimately, we must TRUST in Him to guide our decisions.
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Excerpt from my notes -- light house analogy.
Later in the message, it was said that "If you fear singleness more than you fear a life without God, you're not seeing clearly".  And reflecting, I wasn't seeing clearly.
Between the conviction of the message and the parallels between this particular song on the radio and a light house analogy... I felt like my world just got ROCKED. But what was just a silly movie-song to someone else, really meant more to me.
NOTE: I was told by my boss not to talk about my past relationships on this blog... so I'll likely get in trouble for this. But this is the open and honest part of my story.

When I decided to leave Albuquerque to come to Austin, that meant that I had to end my relationship with the guy I was currently dating. He was a local firefighter. We had dated for about 7 months before I left ABQ. He couldn't leave New Mexico or else he'd lose his pension... and I didn't have plans to stay (or come back). We both felt that our careers were, at this time in our lives, what was important to focus on... and that our relationship would be the cost of that decision.
I won't go into the details of our "break up"... but I will say it wasn't one of those ugly breakups. We don't hate each other... and I truly believe we only want what's best for one another.
But if we're being brutally honest, this has been the hardest part of my transition to Austin so far. It is incredibly hard to leave a relationship that essentially, had no reason to end other than terrible timing and distance. I truly believe in God's plan and that for whatever reason, He had something different planned for both of us. But I'm not going to lie - I will always care about him and worry about him a lot  (particularly, with his job).
Now circling back around, listening to the Garth Brook's song... full of emotion after the sermon... the light house analogy... a music video about a firefighter that reminded me of my firefighter I had to leave behind... the fact that I haven't dated anyone since.... needless to say, I WAS A DISASTER ON THE WAY HOME. I cried... I sang the song... I cried some more.
By the time I pulled into my parking spot at home, I had composed myself enough to realize - this is God reaching out to me. This is God saying - let me be that light house for you. Let me guide you. Your past relationship is not my plan for you. Trust in me. Yes, dating is hard. But I will provide. 
And that was exactly what I needed to hear from the Holy Spirit. (Isn't it funny how God knows? Triggered me by none other than an old Garth song.)
As a person on faith, I believe that God's timing is perfect. His plan is greater than anything I know or could give to myself. But if there was one thing I can cling to, whether single, dating or married - it's that light house.
Here is a link to Austin Stone's "God Loves" series --> CLICK.
Here is a link to Garth Brook's 'When You Come Back to Me Again' music video --> CLICK.
5 Comments
Ali
2/9/2020 06:29:54 pm

Girl this hit home..... now im crying. I can relate. Thanks for sharing that beautiful sermon

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JP
2/9/2020 06:33:40 pm

Hang in there kiddo. Been happily married to the most amazing woman for 30 years now. I also was very unsure at one point. Pray and relax and it will work out. Trust the man upstairs has a plan!

.ps I knew she was the one after only our third date. I hope you find happiness.

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Jaws Castillo
2/10/2020 05:54:36 am

Wow just reading this I'm speechless. Dont think me reading this happen by accident. It's just amazing.

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Daniel L. link
2/10/2020 01:17:14 pm

This was really great to read!

I knew there were people just like me out there! I spent nine years of my life working towards becoming a Producer in the tech industry. I dated, but I kept putting my career first. When I finally got that producer job, I wasn't happy. I had worked so hard for something that ultimately didn't bring me joy.

I prayed and I sought the Lord's guidance. Something I probably should have done to begin with. I was led to go back to school to pursue a master's degree in education. It hasn't been easy to walk away from a high paying job, but I've found more joy in the last two years than I had in the 9 before.

I still pray that the Lord guide me to a strong Christian woman! All in His time! I'm hoping she's out there!

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Daniel
2/11/2020 04:34:44 am

Never ask God for a wife/husband. He will send the right person at the right time. Use this time to understand and know God. And remember His natural order - God in Christ; Christ in man; man over woman; woman over child. That order has to be followed or everything falls apart.

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